#METOO – Why the Silence of Sexually Violated Victims– MeToo – One Reason Why
There are many reasons why victims of sexual abuse #METOO and other forms of abuse stay silent, #WhyIDidntReport. In this blog, I want to talk about one less talked about reason and bring it to light.
I have been debating with myself whether I should write on this sensitive topic and how to present it.
However, a few days ago, a middle-aged gentleman doing some work where I was asked, “what I don’t understand is, why did she waited 36 years before saying anything?” He was referring to Dr. Christine Blasey Ford. I gave him my point of view and after some thoughtful looks, he said to me, “now with that explanation, it makes sense to me.”
This feedback from this gentleman might have been the validation I needed to build the courage to write on this topic.
If you listened to her testimony (Dr. Christine Blasey Ford’s), you will both see and hear something happened to her. Something so bad, it looks like it still needs to be shaken off of her. She is not alone!
This blog is to give one reason I have not heard discussed in these painful situations. This will just be a scratch of the topic.
If you are wondering what topic and situation, it is why sexually violated victims do not report or talk about it ever or for many, many years. Recently with the #METOO movement, a lot of sexual abuse cases of long ago are coming to light. There are many forms of sexual violations not limited to sexual harassment, sexual assault, rape, unwelcomed touches, body movements to give a message and more. Hope this article shades a little light on #WhyIStayed, #WhyIDidntReport.
To evaluate what I am about to put forth, the first thing to understand is that we are spiritual beings using a physical body to do things in the physical plane…earth. While we may not see them, God’s angels and demons are around us round the clock. These are sometimes referred to as energies.
Sometimes, just talking about the abuse in some cases, heals the victims. In the Bible, John 8:32 (KJV) says, “And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” But why don’t we speak this truth and bring it to light sooner is the issue I want to deal with. Because when light is shed on a situation, illumination comes with freedom, so one would reason, just tell the truth. But as we see, the victims’ mouths and minds are shut and locked up. But by whom?
These spiritual energies need a body to operate through, to attach to, or live in. The Bible says when a man and a woman come together intimately, “the two shall become one”
Mark 10: 8 “and the two will become one flesh.’ So, they are no longer two, but one flesh.”
The marital gavel in the Bible is the sexual act. You may say, in some cases there was no consummation, thus no marriage. But there was; as Jesus said, in Matthew 5: 28 “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
In the world today, there are people who have lust and sex, via pictures, phone calls, movies etc. So many thus or consequently, have many wives and husbands in addition to the one they by their countries’ laws are married to and don’t know it! Aha!
Back to the spiritual entities around us and in some of us; when the “two become one”, there is a claim not just to physical property, children, bank accounts, etc., but also to spiritual property. I used to wonder why a woman marries a man and they divorce shortly thereafter, maybe after a few months and even the partner who came in with less or nothing gets half the other’s property. It is because of an earthly binding contract. So too in the spiritual plane. Here we do not have written contracts, but verbal contracts, contracts entered into through sexual acts, blood compacts, handshakes, libations, etc., and when these sexual acts are out of legal wedlock (either through a court or church), the demons in each person has legal rights to the other (unbeknownst to them!)
Liken it to the energy/presence/aura of each individual wrapping around the other person and refusing to be diffused. In healthy relationships, this aura nurtures the partners and family. However, in cases of sexual violation (or illegal contact), these energies/spiritual entities control the molested or violated individual and one of their tendencies is the shut up the victim, amplify the consequences of their reporting the issue, might even threaten their life and family, all via their mind and soul.
“Just because we did not see this energy did not mean that it did not exist. We do not see microwaves when we warm a plate of food in the microwave oven. Neither do we see X-rays. If you went into a night club and only had a drink of water, whether you smoked or not, danced or not, you were going to come out with your clothing soaked in smoke for days. The same happened in sexual relationships. There is no casual sexual relationship.”
Other issues to consider that I can’t deal with in this blog…else it’ll be a book:
- STDs (Sexually Transmitted Demons).
Sometimes women still feel the abuser’s hands on them years later and they take multiple showers a day in an attempt to rid themselves of these demons though they don’t know about these energies. Or they can still hear that demonic laughter and mockery (as in Dr. Christine Blasey Ford’s case.)
These STDs are sometimes termed succubus and incubus spirits.
- Foundational and generational curses. Familiars spirits perpetuating these experiences. You see a family with repeating patterns.
- Usurping/gaining power consciously (example of power loss though in a non-violent situation but it shows power /energy can be ‘stolen’ is the woman with the blood issue in the Bible touching Jesus with intention of getting healing from him through His power, Luke 8:43-48. Jesus could rebound easily, many of us cannot on our own or ever do.)
- They (perpetuators) need clarity of thinking, knowledge, power, focus, ‘good luck’ before doing something important for example, a game, a meeting, an examination, gambling, etc.
- Ever wondered about ‘priests’ with sexual abuse issues? Hm!
Questions: 1. One might ask why most victims don’t seek counsel. In addition to reasons we’ve heard and read about in the media, as I noted, their months are spiritually shut up, they unknowingly have other entities controlling them.
- Why when victims get counseling, they still don’t get 100% relief? It’s because you can’t counsel, coach or plea bargain demons, spirits, or energies!
What’s a way out? Spiritual deliverance. You can’t solve a spiritual problem with a physical solution. These energies only respond to power and authority gotten from God almighty through Jesus Christ. So, victims need a deliverance minister, prayer, love, the Word of God in addition to any phycological counseling received.
Some perpetuators don’t consciously know they are carriers of negative energies. However, on careful observation you can tell some of their behavior and excesses are beyond what an average healthy human can tolerate. That is why we should all be intercessors, because many of us need someone praying for us. Pray for the victims, pray for the perpetuators, (some have foundational and generational energies/curses/repeating patterns in their blood line); pray for leaders. (“1. I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people— 2. for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness. 3. This is good, and pleases God our Savior…” -1 Timothy 2:1-3
Thus, one of the reasons for the silence of victims of sexual abuse that has baffled so many well intended people recently is because these victims have energies introduced into their being and body that control them and one of the things they do is shut them up. These victims especially women become portals for these demons.
There are many gateways in humans. Woman, is co-creator with God. All humans on earth must come through one legal entry – woman. Even God when He came to earth had to come through woman; laws are laws! The womb of the woman is a gateway to create not just humans but more abundance! A lot of men know they can only get and keep their power and wealth through this gateway. Historically Adam, Abraham, David, Solomon, Napoleon, Kennedy, to … etc. all had women in their lives for their elevation. All successful and highly achieving men do. Ask them. Hello!
The feminine mystery! (another blog topic maybe.)
Woman, know thyself!
This feminine energy is so creative and ‘intoxicating’, some men attempt to get it by incubating it and ‘becoming women’. You see their resulting ‘creativity,’ and ‘power/influence.’
This is a somewhat “deep” topic and I feel the burden to shed some little light on it. Because the pain is a deep soulish pain! We are all connected! When you hurt, I hurt. You can read more about relations-ships, the energies they create and much, much more, in my book .“Love Under the Kola Nut Tree. What City Moms Didn’t Tell You About Creating Fulfilling Relationships” If you need more writeup feel free to send me an email at info@imitateNature.com
Mark 4: 22 : For everything hidden is meant to be revealed, and everything concealed is meant to be brought to light.
Isaiah 58:8: “Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will quickly appear; then your righteousness will go before you, and the glory of the LORD will be your rear guard.”
– “Through the sexual act disease, physical, mental, and spiritual, could enter the body. Spirits could partake in this act, sometimes finding a new home. Music, wars, heartbreak, and more took residence through this act. People and men especially, lost not just their minds but their luck and prosperity through this choice. Because this passage in a woman went into the seat of creation, negativity could also go there and be incubated. The womb thus created more than babies.
“Look at the turmoil in the world today due to this sex act. You should know there is more to it than meets the eye. If you do not understand the spiritual implication of sex you will be like a dingy in an ocean, at the mercy of the elements and used by evil people and forces that understand it and know how to use it. From teenagers to world leaders, none is exempt from the effects of Mother Earth. Woman is the equivalent to earth, sometimes called Mother Earth
This womb was the seat of man’s creation. To create at a higher level, however, he needed to elevate himself from being a neophyte to a more conscious human being.”
- “Those who do not understand the rhythm and language of the drums call it noise. (African proverb)”
Peace Be Still!
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